Discipline means to “teach”. It is simply a way to guide and manage a child’s behavior.

Behavior is a form of communication. Children often misbehave when they have a hard time expressing their needs. They can get overwhelmed or confused over what to do next or how to handle a situation, thus an inappropriate behavior can occur.

It is much easier to prevent inappropriate behavior than it is to correct it. Creating a positive relationship with your child, one that fosters communication, respect and understanding is the first step in helping your child do the right thing.

Here are some ways you can help your child to behave:

• Notice the good behavior: it seems simple, but often we forget to acknowledge the good choices our children make. It empowers them.
• Ignore the little things: concentrate on what you really want to change.
• Set a few simple, clear rules and enforce them consistently: clarity and consistency are essential.
• Redirect the behaviors you do not like: get the child interested in positive activities or change the setting.
• Give children advance notice: don’t leave things for the last minute. Transitions and changes in schedules are often stressful.
• Keep a positive attitude: your sense of humor can go a long way in helping your child be cooperative and positive.
• Set a good example: children learn what they live.
• Get the child’s attention: Say his name, look at him when you talk. Don’t just give instructions from across the room.
• Spend time with your children: kids need undivided, personal attention from their parents. It will help you bond.

What changes “if any” can you make to teach and motivate your child to make better choices?