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Turning relationship frustration into positive growth: Episode 47



“Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors”

 

Learning how to manage frustration between couples, kids or family members is a powerful opportunity for growth and positive change. Today’s episode offers tips on what you can do to use “frustration” to create stronger, more fulfilling relationships.

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How to Revitalize a Boring Relationship: Episode 45



“Children see magic because they look for it” ~ Christopher Moore

 

If you are feeling bored in your romantic relationship, today’s episode prompts you to think deeper into what else can be happening and offers you tips on how to liven things up.

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The Effects of Attachment Styles in Relationships : Episode 41



 

” A relationship without communication is just two people”

 

Your attachment style influences the way you relate to others, especially in romantic relationships. Understanding your specific attachment style, as well as your partners, can help you make sense of the thoughts and behaviors that may be getting in the way of creating  the happy, fulfilling connections you deserve. Today’s episode offers tips on how to manage attachment triggers.

 

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Falling Out Of Love: Episode 40



” Love can only be found through the act of loving ” ~ Paul Coelho

 

Today’s episode explores the struggles of staying connected to loving feelings. I offer you a few things to consider prior to believing that you have fallen out of love with your partner and share tips on how to rekindle that loving feeling.

 

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Should Happiness Be The Goal: Episode 36



 

“Happiness is the byproduct of a life well lived” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

 

Are you chasing happiness? Today’s episode prompts you to define happiness. What does it mean for you? How do you know when you achieve it? Can it last?

Happiness is a fluid emotion, it ebbs and flows. Can those instances that you feel unhappy be related to other feelings, values and intentions? If you weren’t chasing “happy”, what would your goal be instead? Tune in and give it some thought.

 

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Expressing Appreciation in Relationships: Episode 035



 

“Appreciation is a currency you can mint for yourself and spend without fear”

 

 

Relationships thrive on appreciation. When someone feels that they are being taken for granted, not seen or undervalued, they often withdraw or put up walls, created with anger and resentment. Expressing and accepting appreciation is a learned behavior. Cultivating appreciation in any relationship is an intentional act that can greatly nurture and sustain a healthy connection.

 

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How to handle the dark sides of a narcissist: Episode 28



“Some people try to be tall by cutting off the heads of others” ~ Paramahana Yogananda

 

Being around someone with significant narcissistic traits can be challenging and toxic. The best method for dealing with them is to stay away from them. When avoiding a narcissist is not possible, there are a few things you can do to self-protect and self-preserve. Check out this weeks episode.

 

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Interacting with grumpy partners: Episode 026



“ You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf “ ~ Jon Kabat Zinn

 

It’s not always easy to engage with your romantic partner when they are grumpy. Emotions can be contagious and while you are not responsible for making anyone happy, there are things you can do to turn that frown upside down. Tune in to today’s episode for some tips on how to create positive connections.

 

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How to get over the guy, that’s no good for you.



 

You have loved him and you have hated him. You have laughed, cried, made adjustments, compromises; but the relationship just doesn’t work out.

It seems that you have tried everything to make it better

but, nothing seems to work.

 

And sometimes you see glimpses of hope, yet they are quickly shattered.

And you promise yourself that this will be the last time, yet, it isn’t.

You spend countless nights thinking, “what’s wrong with me?” “I need to let go of this already” but your heart still yearns for him.

 

Why is it so confusing and difficult?

 

One of the reasons that letting go is tough is because neurons that fire together wire together. Basically, it becomes a habit.

 

What that means is that your experiences become embedded in a network of brain cells and each time you repeat a particular thought or action, you strengthen the connection between your neurons.

So, the more you think of him, the more he will still be around- at least in your head.

The good news is that once you stop focusing your attention on him, the connection will weaken and letting go will be easier.

 

Here are some ways to let him go, opt-out, process the loss, accept and move on:

 

1) Stop calling, texting, emailing, or checking on him via social media. That reinforces your neuron loop.

 

2) Stop analyzing the situation. If you need to do it one more time then, make it final. Come to a conclusion. It helps to write down all the reasons that this relationship does not work out for you. Why are you not happy? Get clear.

Let go of the fantasies, the “what if’s” and “if only” and the rationalizing of unacceptable behavior.

 

3) Don’t blame yourself or second-guess yourself. Nobody’s perfect. Perhaps you have made some mistakes, but regardless, you deserve better. Accept this relationship as an experience. Ask yourself, what can I learn from this?

 

4) Show yourself some love. Do things that feed your spirit and make you happy. Sometimes the smallest things have the biggest impact. Reconnect with yourself.

 

5) If you find yourself obsessing, start practicing mindfulness. Take a deep breath. Say, STOP out loud to yourself and visualize a stop sign.

Now, divert your attention to your breath as it flows in and out. Stay in the present moment. Repeat to yourself, “I choose healthy & happy”.

When you obsess about something, it is a situation from the past that you are still attached to in an unhealthy manner. Let it go!

 

He’s not the one. Let him go.

Make space for something better.

 

Develop a new mantra ~ I Choose Healthy & Happy ~

Why Do People Cheat?



Why do people cheat in a relationship? It’s a conscious act. They know what they are doing. It’s considered cheating when your partner is not informed or in agreement with your lack of loyalty, physically or emotionally. Yet, it is not always easy to figure out how it came to be.

Physical infidelity is getting involved in a physically sexual manner with someone who is not your monogamous partner. Emotional infidelity is when you make an emotional romantic investment, without the physical component, with someone else. Emotional infidelity is not as clear-cut as physical infidelity. It tends to develop slowly and can be a gateway to physical infidelity.

There are numerous reasons why someone cheats, including:

  • Sexual desire for someone else
  • Sexual addiction
  • Dissatisfaction with themselves
  • Dissatisfaction with their partner and relationship
  • Anger
  • Revenge
  • Boredom and seeking a novel experience
  • Thrill
  • Emotional disconnection
  • Opportunity
  • A sense of entitlement
  • Learned behavior from a parent
  • Low self esteem and insecurity
  • Feeling overwhelmed in the current relationship

But, what about love? Can you cheat on your partner and still love them?

The short answer is, “it depends”. We are human. People make mistakes. It really depends on a variety of factors – the circumstances, the reasons, and certainly the way you define love.

Infidelity is complicated. It elicits strong emotions from both the person cheating as well as the partner who has been cheated on and no matter who does it or why, it’s going to impact your relationship.

Many relationships end due to infidelity and others renew and thrive. Understanding the dynamics of what went wrong is the first step towards recovery.